If you're able to confidently say it's supposedly "more likely that's genetics", then I'm allowed to confidently use the phrase "(what should be) common sense."PlusCaChange wrote: ↑Fri Apr 21, 2017 4:16 amCommon sense is wrong at least as often as it's right. That's why scientific thinking has advanced understanding more in the last 300 years than in the 30,000 that came before. You have to test a theory against reality before you can place any reliance on it. In this case first see if there is a real difference in aggressive/violent behavior between children from homes with less aggressive/violent parents or if it's just confirmation bias. Then eliminate other possible explanations like genetic predisposition. Studies of twins reared separately have shown the genetic component of behavior to be enormous, though the interaction between genetics and environment is more complex than a simple either/or.I think it's just (what should be) common sense.
And mine are based on studies too, but I'm too tired (4:22 AM) to go searching for them at the moment. I've taken child development and psychology classes. And I have personally seen dramatic results from a mere change of parental/guardian behavior. My niece for example used to get spanked, and had behavior problems. I was an idiot as a teenager and thought I should spank her. Exacerbated the problem immensely. She felt she wasn't respected (she wasn't, at that time), she feared me, she was angry. I realized that wasn't going to work, started showing her respect instead and obviously never tried spanking her again. Any issues after that were handled by firmly (but not enough to hurt) grabbing her arms if I needed to stop what she was doing immediately, then getting down at her eye level and calmly explaining why what she was doing was not okay, and how I expected more from her. After a while of that I had nothing but a great relationship with my niece and to this day even though she lives far away, she'll call me and write me letters... Also just to brag, she's also vegan for the animals, a straight A honors student, an incredible athlete, artist, and just the classiest teenager I've ever met.
I'm obviously not the sole factor in this, but I definitely could have done damage by continuing to spank her. Although honestly if I had continued I would have had to more severely physically abuse her, and even then it wouldn't have gotten her to do what I wanted except maybe a brief moment. My niece has always been strong spirited. So spanking wouldn't have been an option even if I believed it was a good method.
If I had been able to continue however, I saw very clearly the results of that: anger, fear, behavior problems.
It wasn't genetic, because my niece is an angel. It was because she was being spanked and *shocker* didn't like it.